Bill and Melinda Gates — known around the world as tech and charitable titans — are splitting after 27 years of marriage, at the ages of 65 and 56, respectively. Credit: Alessandra Malito Market Watch Divorcing at an older age has become increasingly common. This phenomenon, called “gray divorce,” could be the…
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Illinois Divorce: Divorce After a Long Marriage
7 Key Facts About Divorce After Long Marriages When an older couple divorces, perhaps after many years of marriage, theories and rumors may swirl around them as extended family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, and casual acquaintances all struggle to make sense of the split. Not long after a lifelong friend of…
Illinois Divorce: Summer and Divorce Planning
Reading up today on divorce planning, the reminder was made that the summer is often the time that many people postpone thoughts of divorce. The reasons for this are many. Business during the summer with activities takes the attention away from difficult subjects like divorce. For many parents, it’s just…
Theories of the High-Conflict Case: Abuse Allegations
FAMILY LAW: 3 Theories of the High-Conflict Case © 2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. I do a lot of consulting to family lawyers and their clients (often on the phone together), as well as many self-representing people in family court cases. These often involve high-conflict custody and access issues, although…
Illinois Divorce: Parental Alienation: What Can a Parent Do?
Parental Alienation: What Can an Alienated Parent Do? Credit: Susan Heitler Ph.D. Resolution, Not Conflict For starters, information is power. Here’s good news on where to get it. This post is in response to Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Is It, and Who Does It? by Susan Heitler In my recent blogpost entitled Parental…
Illinois Divorce: High Conflict Institute and Preparing for a High Conflict Divorce
” Is your partner emotionally explosive, regularly picking fights, and blaming others for all their troubles? Bill Eddy sheds light on how to manage conflict and communication with a high conflict person.” https://www.modernseparations.com/podcast/04 Christina: What type of preparation do you recommend? Bill: Well, a few things. First of all, get support.…
Illinois Divorce: Eight Ways a Narcissist Isolates their Partner
I stumbled upon this article this week and thought it helpful to all that are dealing with the isolation that being in a relationship with a toxic narcissist causes. So much of the narcissist “gamebook” has to do with control. Many narcisisist feel a strong and toxic need to control…
Illinois Divorce Lawyer: Good Questions to Ask a Lawyer in an Initial Consultation
One of the pleasures of my practice in managing only Family Law cases (primarily divorce and child custody cases, and post decree problems with financial and child related issues such a modifications to custody or support orders) is the opportunity to meet with some really fine, caring, and interesting people,…
Illinois Divorce: Resiliency and the “Truth Bomb Mom”
From Kristina Kuzmic: ” Some stories I share with you feel more personal than others. Some stories I’m really protective of because of the impact they’ve had on my life, and in turn, on the lives of my children. This is one of those stories. Ever since I opened up about…
Illinois Divorce: High Conflict Emails
The article below was written by the author of “Splitting,” the landmark book on divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist. I wrote the foreword to the first edition of “Splitting,” and have admired the work that Bill Eddy has done since that time in the field of High Conflict Divorce. Here’s…