Mindy Smith wrote an interesting article in the Huffington Post last year on the “Ten Signs Your Marriage is Headed for Divorce.” I may not agree completely with her Top 10 List, but I include it for interesting reading. She listed the following:
RED FLAG #10: If your spouse is facebooking with his or her high school sweetheart on a daily basis, you may be heading for a divorce.
RED FLAG #9: If you spouse has gained more than 20% of his or her body weight, you may be headed for divorce.
RED FLAG #8: If you spouse is donning sexy new underwear all of a sudden, you may be headed for divorce. I
RED FLAG #7: If your spouse lies around all day and yet house needs cleaning, you may be headed for divorce.
RED FLAG #6: If your spouse is secretive with his or her cell phone, you may be headed for divorce.
RED FLAG #5: If your spouse makes you write down everything you spend money on, you may be headed for divorce.
RED FLAG #4: If your spouse no longer wants to have sex with you, you may be headed for divorce.
RED FLAG #3: If your spouse spends more time on the tennis courts than spending time with you, you may be headed for divorce.
RED FLAG #2: If your spouse cruises singles bars after work, you may be headed for divorce.
RED FLAG #1: If your spouse wants you to swing with your neighbors, you ARE headed for divorce.
Michael Roe’s comments: In my 20 plus years of experience in family law, I can say that within every family system, there are unique reasons for the failure of a marriage. Many of my cases involve unique causes, or a multitude of causes that may include psychological issues. It’s hard to suggest that there really exists a “Top 10 List.” In my work as a divorce and custody lawyer, I really make an effort to understand the unique factors that have created conflict in the marriage, and I take a focused family system approach to the custody issues. In my view, there is no one size fits all solution for a family in divorce. My approach is creative, while at the same time being tenacious and goal oriented for my clients. Whether the breakdown of your marriage was triggered by one of the above 10 reasons, or you have unique issues you’d like to discuss, please go to my Firm’s contact page and contact me for an initial consultation.